Therefore, whenever we have an opportunity, let us do good toward all—especially those who belong to the household of faith. Galatians 6:10, TLV
Especially? “Especially those who belong to the household of faith.” We sometimes forget that don’t we? Or we forget the “all.” Where does our family fit into this equation? Finding that answer is so important.
I had a friend when we lived in Seattle, Bernice. I so admired her. She homeschooled four children. Those children also took courses at the local college. From time to time, she would teach at women’s events. Her insights and gentle demeanor drew people to her. If there was a call for volunteers, most of the time, she was there.
One Sunday our pastor gave a message about finding our calling. That finding our calling involved seeking the Holy Spirit. I had no clear picture of what my calling was, so, of course, I sought out my friend. I sat next to her as folks exited the service. She sat alone, as though waiting for me. I asked her if she knew what her calling was, she closed her eyes, smiled, and said that yes, she did.
Then she sat and said nothing. Hmm. Did she not want to tell me? Was it private? So wondrous she was lost in the holiness of it?
I had to know
For those of you who know me, you know how difficult it is for
me to wait for an answer. Back then, it was even worse. I had to know. Finally, I asked, “So, what is your calling?”
Without looking at me, she said, “My calling is to my family. To be sure my children are prepared for this world. To be Godly in their walk as adults.”
Part of me was disappointed. I mean, doesn’t every parent want that?
“I thought it would be speaking,” I said. “You’re so eloquent and have so much to share, especially with other women.”
At that point, she looked me square in the eyes. “I am called to serve in that way. And I will. But not until my children are on their own. They are my first mission field.”
I don’t remember what I said, I only know I felt deeply convicted. My goals—not to be confused by calling—were to be successful in my career. Everything else was thrown into a basket, like eggs. I figured I would get to them when I had time. All those “eggs,” so fragile and fresh, and I gave them little regard, as they sat too long and eventually became spoiled.
That was a pivotal moment for me. I realized that as a woman, wife, mother, my first calling was to my family.
Today
Today, I would never have imagined that my family would be so much a part of my life. Right now, my daughter, her wonderful hubby, and amazing son live with us. Less than 10 minutes away, hubby’s sister lives in an apartment. What a blessing!
Living in a new state, town, neighborhood has afforded me the opportunity to focus on the most important thing—family. Where I go from there? God knows.
At times, I miss speaking, traveling to events, and sharing the blessings I received and that other women can experience. Maybe someday that will resume again. Maybe not. But whatever my calling, I know family is the priority. Thanks to Bernice.
Perhaps you’re like me and not sure of your calling. Where your
priorities lie. Seek Him. One thing I know for certain, He will let us know. And for that, we can be eternally grateful.
