Today’s Blog: Our House is a Very, Very Fine House . . .
TODAY’S PROVERB: A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1, TLV
I think it’s pretty interesting that thousands of years ago — before feminism — men knew that women make the home. That she had a lot of power. They also knew that her attitude could destroy a happy home, family, and even a nation — think Jezebel.
Ladies, as daughters, wives, or mothers, we have power for good or ruin. Our homes can be a sanctuary or a place to run from. A place of love or rejection. We can provide acceptance and learning, or doubt and fear. Yes, most of this is in our hands.
Did you know one of the most important things to a husband is to have affirmation? Even more than respect and sex. From their jobs to sex to taking out the trash, men need to know that they are appreciated and make their wives proud and happy. It’s remembering in the midst of everything a woman must accomplish in a day, to take the time to affirm our hubbies. That will go a long way in building a happy home.
Once I learned this I began thanking Bob for chores I had once thought he should do without me asking. These became sweet moments of connection between the two of us. We grew closer to each other. Today, he says he’d rather spend time with me than be anywhere or with anyone else. And I feel the same way.
What our children want more than anything is to feel secure in our love. Not the latest toy or technology. They need our presence. Sometimes they want us in the background, other times front and center. They need to know that when we discipline them, we still love them — and we don’t love them less if they disappoint us.
I struggled with harsh reactions to disappointment with our daughter. It didn’t mean I loved her any less, but my actions caused her to doubt that. I had to learn how to control my responses, and then treat her with both firmness and love. That went a long way in proving to her that she was secure in my love.
What type of house are we building? A Godly, loving home filled with laughter and learning? Or a house we control with criticism and demands.
Let’s be wise, my sisters, and build a home where we treat our family as well as we would guests. A home where love is evident as much in what we do as what we say. A home where GOD resides with joy and goodwill — a place He would want to visit.